This spread was inspired by a TED Talk by Mel Robbins on “How to Stop Screwing Yourself Over“. In it, she talks about the “F Word”: FINE, and how we use it to avoid thinking about and acting on all those things that are lacking in our lives. FINE is settling. FINE is non-confrontational. FINE is a lie; a lie we tell others, and ourselves.
The spread positions are explained below, and you’ll see that they are somewhat loose and customisable, as we all use the FINE “method” in a slightly different way. You may even wish to pull more than one card for one or more of the positions – whatever brings you clarity!
[F] eeble Excuse – What feeble excuse are you making in order to avoid confronting the issue? Additionally, how are you failing yourself in doing this?
[I] nsincere Communication – What lie are you telling yourself and others in order to keep up this pretense? Or, how is this excuse/lie affecting the honestly of your communication?
[N] egation of Self – Where are you denying your true desires? Or, what desires are you denying fulfilment to?
[E] vasion of the Issue – How is this affecting your authenticity? Or, how are you denying your authenticity?